Do you ever pay attention to how much energy you have and how it impacts your mood, productivity and relationships? We know we need nourishment from food to provide us energy, but how many of you take a close look at the way we speak and how our energy can be drained?
This past weekend I spent an amazing stress free weekend away with my husband, which with 4 kids is a rare experience. On Sunday evening I decided to call a friend who I had not spoken with in a while and we talked for over 2 hours. Since it had been a while, I shared a variety of things going on both good and challenging situations.
That night I had a REALLY hard time sleeping. I never have sleep issues. I regularly get 7 to 8 hours of sleep a night, but I had this anxious feeling all night long. It wasn’t like I had a lot of stuff going on the next day to worry about. It was just this really wierd energy.
Later in the day, a client of mine reached out said she felt that we needed to connect. She was sensing that I was “just out of it”. She was right. I had all of these anxious feelings that came to the surface as a result of talking with my friend.
It was like when I spent time gossiping, or talking about “negative” stuff, that my energy field was severely impacted. Many times, we live in this space of energy leaking all over the place and it just becomes the norm and hard to realize when this is happening to us. But this was SO different for me, since I had literally had a stress free weekend. I went from complete BLISS, to complete ANXIETY. My body could SO feel the difference.
My friend told me to close my eyes, take a deep breath and put my hand on my heart and think of the first word that comes to mind. PATIENCE. Ahhh. This anxiety was around waiting for things to happen. Talking with my friend about the anxiety just added to the leaking of my energy and created even MORE anxiety. While I didn’t intentionally ask for more anxiety, that is what my body and energy was creating by the words and actions I was choosing.
It was amazing to really experience it from this perspective. I had never thought of energy from that perspective before. I know its important to surround myself with positive thoughts and to keep a gratitude journal, but I never paid attention to how my words thoughts and actions completely drained my energy. All I did was have a conversation with a friend, which we all do, but this time, was a new learning experience for me.
I encourage you to think about times when you are speaking negative thoughts about something at home or at work or even just complaining about something. Maybe something happened at work and you felt the need to express that you didn’t feel something was fair. Maybe a colleague did something or didn’t do something that frustrated you. You might be unhappy with your child who is not turning in his homework on time and getting bad grades at school. It could even be worrying about how you are going to find time to run to the store to pick up a gift for the party over the weekend, when your schedule is jam packed or when you get lost and you know you are going to be late for an event and you want to make a good first impression.
When we are in the thick of it, many times we don’t see how we are allowing the circumstances and people around us to steal our energy. When we give away our energy, we give away our internal source of power. This is the life force that keeps us going. If you find yourself beginning to realize you are leaking energy, take a deep breath and refocus, remain strong, centered and grounded. This will help you to stop the leak and regain your power.
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